Lisa Axelson, the woman in charge of giving Ann Taylor a fresh, new look is a 38-year-old mom-to-be….”…I never would have gone to Ann Taylor,” says Axelson, who has been creative director and senior vice president of design for nearly two years. “It was too conservative.“
“We were all surprised she [Axelson] went to Ann Taylor because it seemed very old,” says Helen Farnell, a designer for Express, who has worked with Axelson on and off for 10 years. “But she has brought in a lot of modern elements. I’ve never seen the stores looking so good. I’ve even gone in and bought things, which I never would have done before.”
I also enjoyed this part about other retailers copying J. Crew:
If it all sounds a bit familiar, it’s because it is. Ann Taylor, like so many other retailers, is trying to pull a J. Crew — whipping up clothes that can be dressed up or down, sprinkling in an aura of affordable luxury, and a dash of ruffles and bows, in hopes that it adds up to fashion magic. “Everyone is using J. Crew’s [design] themes. You’re seeing it at Talbots and even Gap to a certain extent, because they are all trying to get business back. Soon Costco will be selling ruffles,” Tunick says.
This article and some recent comments on my Formspring page got me thinking- do you really think about brands and what age they are targeted to, or do you simply buy pieces you love?
I know a lot of bloggers shop at every store from Neiman Marcus to Charlotte Russe. It’s the mixing and matching of the high and low that inspires me so much. It’s making an outfit look expensive- when it’s not. That’s what I love to see on blogs- how can I make this $20 shirt look like it cost $100 by mixing in key pieces, pricey or not?
In fact, I was so in love with Chloe and Couture and Crayon’s recent styling of a $20 Charlotte Russe lace top that I just had to get it for myself- and it arrived on my doorstep today. I didn’t think of the brand or how much it cost. I just saw how great it looked and based my purchase decision on that factor alone.
I’ve never been a huge brands person. I just buy what I like and what appeals to me. I love designers and brands, but I enjoy being inspired by them instead of striving to own designer pieces. Sure I love a designer piece here and there (after all, I did just buy the MbMJ bag) but it’s not a focus for me (though they say once you start buying designer, you become obsessed…we’ll see.)
Thanks to the people who posted the comments that inspired this post. [The comments] were about the fact that I shop at Victoria’s Secret PINK and that I got a Marc by Marc Jacobs bag (and not just “Marc Jacobs.”) I think those comments brought up an interesting point- do you shop for your age? SHOULD you shop for your age?
Before Ann Taylor transformed their brand, creating younger more trend-based pieces, should every woman over 30 have shopped there?
Do women who wear clothes they think they should wear for their age have the same confidence in themselves as someone who dresses how they love without regard to age? After all, isn’t that how MOM JEANS happened (really, who do those flatter? no one! Who decided once you’re a mom you have to stop dressing cute and only wear unflattering jeans? No thank you!)
To be honest, the comments took me by surprise. I’m not offended by them- I think they generate an interesting discussion. I guess I was surprised because yes, I do shop at Victoria’s Secret PINK– for lounge wear and PJ’s…not to wear to work or out of the house. Yes, I’ll throw on a VS PINK tee once in awhile to go to the gym, but other than that, I just wear it as sleep and lounge wear. Is that “not dressing my age?” I’m not really sure. I like VS PINK because the colors are bright and fun and the clothes are comfy and IMO, of decent quality. Yes, the line is targeted at college students, I’m 100% aware of this…but it’s cute and comfy, so why not? Especially if you’re wearing it in the privacy of your own home.
Do you think about the stores you shop in and the brands you buy in relation to your age? Does it affect your decision, or do you simply buy garments based purely on how they look on you and how they appeal to you?
Personally, I buy based on what I like and what I feel suits my style. Whether that item is from Target, Express, Forever21 or Charlotte Russe, it doesn’t affect my decision. I just buy what I like with very little regard for what age group the brand or store targets. I thought this was how everyone shopped, but I’m coming to realize this isn’t the case.
I also wasn’t aware most girls in their late teens and very early 20’s bought $400 handbags, but I guess I am behind the times, as at 27, this was my first handbag that cost that much. I used to buy $50 bags from Aldo and loved them…so what do I know?
When I bought my MbMJ bag, I didn’t even THINK about what brand it was. I just saw the simple structure of the bag, felt the buttery leather and loved the bold color so I took the plunge. I was asked why I didn’t buy Chanel or another higher-end brand. The simple answer is that I loved the bag I bought, didn’t find anything by another brand I liked as much in my price range and that I have other financial priorities that keep me from spending $2000 on a Chanel bag or other higher-end bag.
I hope this post generates a discussion about this topic because that is my intention for this post. Yes, the post was generated by some recent criticisms, but I think everyone has the right to explain what they think about this topic as long as it’s in an adult way. I’m very curious to hear what all of your thoughts are on this topic, so please leave your thoughts, comments and opinions below.
Skirt- Banana Republic
Shoes- Jessica Simpson
Sweater- Express
Bag- MbMJ
Veronika.
PS- I forgot to add that In Style magazine has an awesome feature where they show how to wear a trend in your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and 50’s. I love that they show how anyone can incorporate a trend while also making it more age-appropriate.
Better buy up all of that VS Pink stuff and enjoy it while you can, because once you turn 30 your skin shrivels, your butt sags, and all of the clothes in your closet magically turn into mom jeans, baggy denim capris, and ugly sweaters. Didn't you know that life as you know it is OVER at 30?
Lol, totally kidding of course. That 19 year old from your formspring sounds like a naive, condescending little snot.
Tara- I know right!? Besides, people tell me all of the time that I look younger than I am, so I guess I have a few more years before I start to LOOK like an old hag. Thank goodness!
I'm with you, I buy what I like plain and simple. Just because something is a certain high end brand, doesn't mean it looks nice! Some times you just can't buy good taste.
I still wear VS undies b/c they're comfy and I'm 30. I also have a few PINK hoodies that I wear around the house. Who cares!?
Lastly, love your new bag. People need to take a chill pill.
There's nothing wrong with looking young! I get it constantly! It bothers me sometimes, but I have to remind myself that it will soon become a compliment.
I really don't think about brands that much. I'm like you – I like to mix and match! I'll wear anything as long as it's flattering. I buy from many different stores, ranging from Forever 21 to Express to Banana Republic.
PS…I also went to Charlotte Russe and bought that lace top. LOVE IT!
I have to admit that not dressing your age is one of my pet peeves. I think mini-skirts do have a shelf life (varies per person) and some things do just look too young to be appropriate on people of a certain age (ie when my skirt is longer then my MIL's skirt, this doesn't really seem right to me). After saying all that, I don't think that wearing VS Pink collection in your home or the gym falls under any of the rules I just mentioned. Their clothes is really comfy. Period! Bethenny from the Real Housewives of NY has been wearing a pair of VS pajama pants on her show that I've been dying to find, I'm pretty sure she isn't their target demographic either.
I will buy things because I like them but I do keep my age in mind. I will never wear PINK, I'm 40 and I do think women in their 40's no matter how good their body is, look ridiculous. On the other hand alot of blouses cardigans etc can be dressed up or down. And jeans, I think there is an age appropriateness. You don't want to see a 60 year old wearing a thong and skinnies. I say wear what you like but keep it in your generation.
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Laura- it's definitely a slippery slope topic. I think if you have the look and the body to pull off a short dress in your 30's then by all means go for it, but there are definitely limits.
Pshh Nothing wrong with wearing some VS Pink! 🙂
I, too dress in what I like. If it happens to be at a store targeted to younger people (I'm 26), oh, well.
I think there's a difference between buying pieces from "younger" stores and not dressing your AGE. Some people just can't figure it out. Or some people just LIKE dressing older/younger. Whatever floats your boat. I don't judge.
As far as brands go, I do have a few favorites. Why? Because I like their style. The shape of their bags, the TYPE of dresses/tops they carry. I don't specifically buy something just because it says Dolce&Gabana or Marc Jacobs, etc. on it.
And REALLY?? Marc by Marc Jacobs. You shouldn't buy that bag because it's catered toward younger women? Please. Gimmie a break. Anyone who follows fashion blogs will see that bag in particular popping up in several older 20-somethings hands.
I'm going to be 100% honest- I have expensive taste. Do I like it? Not really, but without even looking at a price tag- most things I like are more expensive. I enjoy finding inexpensive items just as much as the next person.
And you know what? Sometimes I feel JUDGED. Just like someone who wears a $5 top from Walmart may feel judged because someone may say their top is "cheap". Anyone who reads my blog knows I adore Anthropologie. They have unique brands and I like that style. My friends will ask me where I bought this dress or that top and my answer is usually the same. Then everyone starts talking about HOW expensive that store is, and even SALE items are outrageous……Great. Then don't shop there. I can afford it, I like it, so I buy from them.
I swear I'm not angry. Just discussing what I think. 🙂
I kinda veered off topic, but I tried to stick to your questions!
@ jenny- thanks for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate it 🙂 I also think anthro is expensive but you have to buy what you LOVE. I hate to think that some people just buy things because they are cheap. I'd rather take the time to carefully pick my pieces than to just buy what's $5. I love to shop, so I see it as fun to pick a few garments out of the hundreds available.
I buy whatever looks cute and feels comfy. Also I am a bargain hunter so that helps! I think certain things like mini's and low low cut stuff should be kept for maybe a younger person but then again you can make those kinds of things not look inappropriate or too young. I don't think there is anything wrong with Victoria's secret. I mean hello their models are in their 20's, 30's and 40's! Just saying. Anyway, I think you are precious and have a cute style. You work hard for your money and should be able to spend it however you like, without people's special comments. 🙂
I completely agree with you Veronika about choosing clothes because you love them, not because they are "age appropriate" for you to wear. As someone that recently graduated college, I need to be creative in making my looks stylish but also affordable. I have no problem shopping at places like Forever 21 and Charlotte Russe; it is these places that I use as a way to make complete outfits with the few choice pieces that I buy from places like J. Crew and Banana Republic.
Thanks for bringing up this topic; it is fun to read what everyone else says!
I'm not a fan of firm fashion rules related to age. I don't think there is an age cut-off for mini-skirts, etc., as long as the wearer likes the style and is comfortable.
That said, sometimes there are clothes and brands that I think are too youthful looking for me. I'm not a fan of PINK since the clothes look really young and aren't my style, though I will buy from Victoria's Secret. I also don't buy from Junior's stores, but that is because the cut is wrong for my body.
rebecca- thanks for sharing your thoughts on this 🙂 I think VS PINK looks young, but I also think I look young. Haha maybe I'm kidding myself!
Love the outfit, love the bag! I'm with you on this one Veronika – I'm not a huge "brand" person – I buy what I like, not based on where it's from. TJMaxx is one of my favorite stores for bags and shoes; I really don't look at the name when I buy a bag, I go by what I like. (And most of the time it ends up being all the same brand!)
I think there are definitely stores that are geared more towards certain age groups, but I don't think that means certain people shouldn't be able to shop there. Take American Eagle for example. I used to shop there all the time in high school and college (because really, that's who their target shopper is), but I work with a woman in her late 50s who only wears American Eagle and GAP clothes and she doesn't look like she's trying to dress young. I think if someone is shopping at a store not geared towards their age range they just need to be a little bit more careful of what they buy. You don't go into American Eagle and buy their little miniskirt, but nobody said you can't wear their jeans! Does that make sense? I feel like I kind of rambled on a little bit haha
@lindsay- totally makes sense 🙂 I just bought AE boyfit denim shorts…that doesn't mean I'm also going to wear all of their other clothes…you're right- it's about picking the RIGHT pieces, no matter what the brand.
I guess I don't read enough about fashion other than in magazines. I had no clue Marc by Marc Jacobs was targeted for younger women… but I think that you are a young woman! I just buy what I like and don't even think about where it came from/who it was targeted for but do tend to go to the same stores over and over.
As far as dressing age appropriately, I do think it's unfortunate when I see a woman trying to look younger. I saw an older woman doing grocery shopping in Hudson shorts, like your AE ones, the other day and thought… wonder if she shares those with her daughter? I just hope to age gracefully and accept and love myself as I do.
I am also cursed (depending on how you look at it) with looking quite a bit younger than my age. I'm 29 and an attorney so my work attire has to be a bit more conserative. However, that definitely doesn't mean that I wear dowdy suits all the time. I like to incorporate key pieces that I love and I adore shopping at Anthropologie and Ann Taylor. I buy whatever I feel like buying and hardly ever take age into consideration. The only article of clothing that I think I'm too old to wear is a short blue jean skirt haha. I don't know why, but I think that's better left for the younger crowd. Other than that I'm a firm believer that if you feel good in it and you feel you have the body to rock it…then definitely go for it. I still wear VS pink and shop at forever 21 once in awhile and I'm proud of it! 🙂 Love the bag btw!
I read this entire post and have to agree with you. I buy what I like and what flatters. Sometimes I think I might be pushing a style that is too young, but then I say, 'F that, I'm 26, I can still rock this' – or just reminding myself I'm in my TWENTIES jolts me back to reality – I'm young enough to pull of younger trends, but old enough to dress like a classy business woman as well.
The bag you bought is beautiful and I never for ONE SECOND would have thought you should have bought the MJ bag instead of the MbMJ – that's ridiculous!!! The fact that you OWN a designer bag is huge, and seriously, an accomplishment – that shouldn't be overshadowered by what you should and shouldn't be wearing. Pfff.
Lastly, I too love the VS Pink line and I'm not sure if you're familiar with Joshua Perets (I think it's only in Canada… but you ARE from TO.. so… maybe?) but the stuff is very similar. Super bright colours, track suits, tons of hoodies, great quality. Anyways, I LOVE that stuff. For comfy stuff, it's my fave go-to spot. WHile a little pricey, it's certainly a fave indulgence and I could give a rats a$$ if it's targeted to teens – I can pull it off, and I do – and you do too with the VS Pink stuff! (Plus, it's usually just around the house like you said, like, at least you're lookin' cute – it's not like you're lazing around in frumpy clothing, there is effort to your comfy look, which is great).
All that to say, great post, good discussion and I don't think you're too old to be wearing anything you've worn on here – you always look great.
PS – I was in MTL two weeks ago for my bachelorette and went to F21 – guess what? They still had your teal dress (with the different neckline, slightly peekaboo) and I tried it on, sadly, too short … I'm still not sure how it's long enough on you (I remember you making that point) but it was super nice – lucky you! 🙂
@ a.co- i didn't realize your wedding was so soon! congrats!
the dress is short on me but not too short…weird that it was too short on you..
thanks for your comment 🙂
i haven't heard of joshua perets- where do they sell it? is it its own store or sold in other stores?
I think that fashion is meant to have fun with. we should have fun dressing ourselves in the mornings, and wear what we like.
isn't that why so many (traditionally) conservative "mom" brands have started to make the hipper, cuter clothes? because women don't want to dress boring and dowdy just because they have hit some arbitrary age number?
also, your bag is sooo cute and fun!! and i think it suits and complements your style perfectly.
i hope you just brush off all those negative comments and continue to wear what you want.
AND, i am out of college, and i love VS pink line. they make the cutest pjs.
mikaela- I think you're right on target. Brands have changed drastically and I think that's a good thing. Older women and moms should still be as stylish as they want to be. It makes me sad when I see women who don't think they can dress nicely anymore because their bodies have changed or because of their age, especially when there are so many great options out there!
This is an interesting discussion. What is dressing for one's age anyway? I am 64, size 2, and most of my clothes come from J.Crew. I buy what is appropriate for me and my varied lifestyle. I am on several boards so I need business-like clothes. We have a ranch so I need casual things. We live in Houston so I need smart casual clothes. I don't wear J.Crew's tiny mini skirts (although my legs are in good enough shape to wear them) because it wouldn't be age-appropriate. I do wear skirts an inch above my knees though. Many women my age have let their bodies go so they couldn't wear the cute pencil skirts and cardigans from J.Crew and others so they wear things to cover their shapes. I've seen women much, much younger than I in clothes that either don't fit properly or are too tight, too short, etc. for their bodies. It certainly helps if one is fit. I get many compliments on my style so hopefully I am achieving an age-appropriate style. I enjoy your blog, Veronika, and love your style.
Many have a misconception when it comes to generalizing a brand or store; i.e. Forever 21 is not just for people who are in their early 20's and younger. That is just the name of the damn store. Yes they have a new pregnancy line and no they are not condoning teenage pregnancy. It is called expanding the brand. I am 30…ish and I shop at F21.
I believe in picking and choosing pieces that are appropriate for your age. Yes partiuclar stores cater to a certain audience and a certain body type. I am petite and this is one of the reasons I have to shop at junior sized stores. I shop for what fits me best and yes I have shifted to a more conservative look. I shop a AE on occasion but I don't sport AE ultra short shorts. Which BTW I think are not appropriate for teens, AE's target audience.
Who cares if you wear VS Pink, it is meant to be lounge wear and workout wear. Heck I wouldn't even bat an eye if I saw you wearing it at the grocery store. Ask me when you're 50 and I'll say something.
I'm a brand snob when it comes to handbags. I'm particular about quality and faux leather is a no go for me. I like to buy one good classic rather than buy a bunch of inexpensive bags.
I am so not picky about brand when it comes to clothes. I'll even shop at Walmart. But I do draw the line at bad quality. If it looks cheap I don't care if it is free.
Your bag is gorgeous and now I wished I would have done a more exciting color with my Hillier. Your black and white wardrobe palette is perfect to showcase that color.
The vicious comments are just a sign on envy.
You have a great blog and I adore your style. =)
cynthia- thanks so much for your comment! based on your blogger photo you look absolutely fab for 64 and I'm glad you still wear beautiful clothes that make you feel great and kudos to you for be unapologetic about it (because hello- you're 64, fit and fabulous and not afraid to show it!)
couture- I can always count on you for a beautiful and insightful comment, thank you 🙂
I agree with you- I do think people tend to generalize brands…but I think a lot of those people are just "lazy shoppers" and what I mean by that is they don't enjoy "the hunt" of shopping and would just prefer the easiest pieces to be presented to them instead of really seeking them out. There is nothing wrong with that, but for me, part of the thrill is finding that one top at forever21 that looks like it cost way more after looking through 20 racks of tops that just don't cut it. I love that feeling!!!
thanks again for your comment 🙂
OMG – this so applies to me – I TOTALLY do not dress my age – my favourite store at the moment is garage (did you ever shop there when you lived in Canada)…whenever I'm in there – I'm surrounded by tweens and teens – but I just love the style and sizing of their clothes.
And I do get mistaken for being younger than I am – but I don't try to dress like a teenager…I take items from a "teen" shop – and style it according to my taste.
I like VS Pink stuff too – and I think you should carry what makes you happy – people who restrict themselves based on age hang-ups are missing out on a lot of fun! (and comfort!)
I think women should wear what they feel good in (within reason of course), and the brand/target market of that brand shouldn't matter. Wearing something from BR and target together shouldn't matter. I do it all the time, and get tons of compliments : )
-Rebecca
So, I just read the formspring comments. I think that anyone who has a problem with you buying bags/clothes aren't "coach" obviously isn't married/have other priorities. I'd rather buy something nice for our house than have a nice handbag, but that' s just me : )
I'm totally with you – I just buy what I like. And if I can get it on sale or clearance, I like it even more. 😉
I am pretty sure whoever left that comment probably still lives with mommy and daddy and has nothing to worry about because mommy and daddy takes care of everything.
I'm 27 and hell, I can afford the whole spring line of Louis Vuitton handbags if I want to but no, I would rather go on a vacation or put all that money in the mortgage or just leave the money on the savings account.
In what world is a handbag line that costs upwards of $400 designed and/or appropriate for people younger than their mid 20s? GIVE ME A FRIGGIN BREAK! Sweet Jesus, I can't even believe that someone would suggest that your new bag is "too young" for you.
That bag is the bees knees, and it is SO YOU. I don't even KNOW you in real life, and I can see that. It's also SO ME, but at 32, I still haven't gotten to a point on life where I'm comfortable dropping that kind of coin on a purse. Maybe someday!
Beyond that, I think EVERY woman looks best when she feels GOOD and COMFORTABLE in her clothes (and skin for that matter). Outside of the truly delusional who seem to be completely lacking in self-awareness, the vast majority of adult women have pretty well developed ideas about what they look and feel best in, and if you polled the general public, they'd probably agree with those ideas.
All that said, I gotta say Veronika: I think I've seen three different outfits involving today's skirt now, and I'm just not crazy about it! Clearly YOU like it, and that's what matters. But to be perfectly honest (yet respectful), I don't think it's the most flattering thing in your wardrobe.
Veronika,
I agree with the majority of the points that you made.
Veronika said…
Laura- it's definitely a slippery slope topic. I think if you have the look and the body to pull off a short dress in your 30's then by all means go for it, but there are definitely limits.
However, I am going to spice things up.
What about looking at your argument from the other side … Younger girls looking to dress older.
What if a 13 year old can fill out a low cut top? Should she be given the same fashion-freedom as Cynthia who can still rock looks at 60+?
Interesting topic : )
xoxoxo
Kristyn
How funny.. I was just reading that InStyle magazine article earlier today and was thinking about how awesome it was.
As for shopping – I say, shop wherever you please because "brand" doesn't mean a thing when it comes to clothes, and whatever appeals to your eye is the wisest decision you can make when it comes to clothes shopping.
I think some of those comments you received were absurd, if not, down right stupid. Why should you purchase a MJ bag instead of a MbMJ bag just because you're in your late-20s? Like you, I'm unaware (and quite shocked) that there would be teens that would spend $400 on a designer purse. (Probably from their parents' money anyway.) Regardless, I don't know why some people feel the need to criticize you, especially when they're doing it anonymously. I think you are very logical and rational with your shopping, and at the very least, a smart shopper. It's not like you go out and splurge on stuff all the time, nor are you "snobby" about what you buy. Pffft, some people. Great topic. I love that you write about thought provoking topics. I think my favorite one was about the models without makeup (even though I thought a few of the older ones were totally wearing makeup, but eh. LOL!)
P.S. Loving today's OOTD. Can't believe I missed out on that cute top!
Veronika,
I think this is an interesting topic. On one hand, I do agree that Marc by Marc Jacobs and most certianly VS PINK are targeted toward a younger woman, but then again you aren't that old.
One thing that does bother me, however, is your response to the teenager on your forumspring. I'm eighteen myself, and lucky enough to belong to a family that can afford to give me nice things. That being said, I do own a few Chanel and Balenciaga purses, as well as a couple Louboutins, etc. It bothers me IMMENSLEY when adults act as though this shocks them, and that I am somehow out of line simply by owning these brands! And to be honest, I think it stems from jealousy.
I think it's all in how you present the items you purchase…you're approaching thirty, and so you keep the PINK items within the confines of your home. I'm still a teenager, and so I mix my Missoni dresses with sandals from Aldo, etc. I just think it's all in how you make it work!
As far as your not being able to currently afford a Chanel purse, who cares?! I own a few, and I agree- they are outrageously pricey! If I didn't have my family, I doubt I could afford one either. There's nothing shameful about cutting back on clothing purchases so that one can save for the future. Don't let anyone make you feel embarrassed, about chosing to follow a budget which makes sense for you! Good for you for not living outside your means!
I think this has rambled on for too long…but I hope it made some sense, haha!
Hi I just think that if you look great and feel great who cares where you buy your clothes, I'm 32 years old and I'm sure that i look better than many teens or 20's girls.
Hi Now the 30 are the new 20.
and BTW I shop everywhere…. if I like something and it fits well and looks good, I buy it.
I deleted my post because I felt like I was getting way too off topic!
@Michelle- I'm with you- i'd rather spend the money on something like a new home or a vacation instead of a chanel bag- but everyone has different priorities and that's OK, there's just no reason to tell someone they shouldn't have bought a certain bag because it's too young or too cheap for them.
Anon-I am not shocked by young women and girls who CAN own designer bags, I'm shocked that they think the bags are TARGETED to them. Just because you can afford a Chanel (which is awesome) it doesn't mean the brand is targeted to you. My MbMJ bag says WORKWEAR on the tag…so to me, it's inteded as part of their "work appropriate" bags line and thus to me- a working twentysomething.
I really appreciate your comment and think it's great that you mix high and low pieces! I also wanted to clarify that I am not at all embrassed at my new bag- I just think this is an interesting topic. I love my bag and feel awesome about it, I just wanted to start this discussion to get everyone's thoughts 🙂
and don't worry- rambles often lead to the best discussions! I totally get what you're saying and you seem to have the right outlook on things- understanding how lucky you are without feeling the need to bring others down about it. Good for you 🙂
Interesting topic for sure! I will be 28 next month and sometimes I catch myself gravitating towards clothes (think "club wear") that I wore 6 or 7 years ago and once I have it on in the dressing room I realize that I don't have anywhere to wear it at this point in my life! I tend to look for key " investment pieces" that I can wear for years and then add trendy items from F21, Target, and other stores to keep things young and fun. I don't understand why anyone would be critical of your wardrobe choices, I think late 20s is a very versitle time when we can pull of a variety of looks that later on we won't be able to- enjoy it!
I think your bag is a great choice for someone in their late 20s because it's not boring but it is work appropriate. I have a plum bag I bought a few months ago and I love the fun color!
I've been thinking about this a lot lately! I'm 29 and am beginning to wonder when I will be too old for the clothes that I like. But reading this post from you makes me believe that I am a great dresser and I don't dress too young or old for my age. I am also blessed to look young, but I will not wear clothes from American Eagle, Abercrombie, and Hollister. I mostly shop at Express, F21, and NY&Co. I am blessed to work in a casual environment where I can wear pretty much what I want, so I try to mix jeans, skirts and dresses as much as I can so I stand out as a great dresser. I get compliments from my co-workers all the time.
As far as your purse, I don't know why anyone would give a flying flip where you got your purse or how much you paid or didn't pay for it. I'd love to buy an investment purse but I am just as happy with my $20.00 purses from T.J. Maxx. But that doesn't mean I'll question your decision to buy something that makes you happy. There are other bloggers out there that can buy Loubie's all the time (like Tiffany from IamStylish), so good for them! I don't understand all this negativity towards you. It seems you can't do anything right. I'm not sure why those negative people don't just stop reading.
marcie- thanks for your comment 🙂
in regards to the last part of your comment- I completely agree- I'm not sure why they keep reading either? Oh well!
Great post, I'm with you on this subject. I buy what I like regardless of where it's from or what brand it is. I do take into consideration my age, some trends are too young for me (I'm only 26, so I'm close to you in age) and are more appropriate to High Schoolers. I do think that women do need to think about their age when they buy stuff, but more along the lines of where their hemlines fall. I subscribe to InStyle and LOVE their section on how to wear trends at different ages. There's a lot of trends that can be worn at all ages, it's just getting the styling of them right.
As for your purse or clothing options, I think you have great taste and have a variety of items from high and low pieces. IDK why anyone would care enough about what you wear to comment and be nasty to you. You always look fab!
I'm a younger person (early 20's) and I own a couple designer, 400 dollar bags and I plan to expand my collection to 6 bags in colors that I can mix and match with my outfits/purposes (i.e. am I running out to do errands or going on an airplane flight?). I save up for my bags and am very careful about which ones I buy (hence why I only have a couple at this point) and I only buy when they are discounted.
Honestly I feel like with bags especially they're marketed more towards someone's personal style than an 'age group' though I can understand why some age groups may gravitate more towards one style. The brand of bag I buy is marketed towards women who want classic pieces (i.e. nothing too trendy/out there) in trendy AND neutral colors. I've spotted people sporting this designer from the age of young 20's all the way up to a woman in her 60's. To me it has way more to do with what your style aesthetic and ideal is than the age group the company markets to. Personally, I think chanel bags are ugly. There, I said it, LOL! I don't like them and never have and I doubt when I turn 30 I'll wake up and go, 'you know, I should go buy a chanel bag!"
I understand your reaction to the 19 year old who commented like they did, completely. And it doesn't stem from jealousy, like someone else said it seemed like it did. Just reading that comment bugged me, and it stems from the frustration that, okay, that's awesome if you're 19 and have a Chanel bag or another designer bag but most 19 year olds do not and the vast majority of people have to make spending priorities that means dropping any amount of money on a designer bag means the difference between going on that vacation, paying your mortgage, or padding the savings account. I know I felt exasperated by the fact that that person who asked you that 'question' didn't seem to understand that most people even with well paying jobs still have to make priorities with their spending and even if fashion and beauty is one, it's not necessarily at the very top.
In any case, you're well dressed and you don't look like you 'don't dress for your age'. You have a very feminine, high end + low end mix style and I think the fact that you don't dress exclusively (or even mostly) in high end designer stuff is why a lot of us like your blog (and why you gained such a huge following so quickly!)
Nikki- wow! thank you for your very well thought-out comment. You expressed exactly how I feel- not jealous that someone can afford a designer bag at 19, but perplexed that they seemingly weren't capable of understanding that someone my age who is married has far more important things to save for than a purse. If you can have Chanel bags and a great house and nice cars, more power to you- but most of us have to pick and choose what we save for and prioritize.
thanks again for the sweet comments about my blog- happy to have you as a reader, and a frequent commenter 🙂
Hi Veronika, I sometimes check your blog via thenest and I think its ridiculous that someone would be so critical. I would love to own a Chanel bag, but right now we have other $ priorities so I don't have $3K to drop on a bag. I buy Coach etc purses that are around $500 or under for right now. It is great if people can afford to spend 3K on a bag, but they shouldn't criticize others for how they choose to spend OR save their money! I think you have great style and always look great, keep up the good work : )
I am 31 and I feel that I dress for what's appropriate for the situation. At work, I dress pretty conservatively because I want my clients to know that I am serious about doing a great job for them. I also get a lot of remarks that I look too young to be doing what I do for my career. Hence, I feel more confident when I am dressed business like. Perhaps I dress "old" at work.
I am now shopping for some racy outfits for an upcoming couples Vegas trip. I've bought a couple of dresses that I wouldn't ordinarily wear out on a "typical" Saturday night. Vegas has it's own rules though! No rules perhaps! These outfits are definitely "young"!
I find the most difficult outfits to find are my everyday-casual-I'm going to the grocery store type. That's where I feel my true style should reflect itself. I am drawn more towards a bohemian/anthropologie like style. A style I wouldn't really wear to work. That's what makes fashion fun though! There are so many things (age, work, vacations, pregnancy, family get togethers) that make us reflect how we want to represent ourselves and show the world. Fashion is a great tool to figure out what direction you are starting your day in.
Noelle- I really appreciate your comment and you're absolutely right in what you said:
" There are so many things (age, work, vacations, pregnancy, family get togethers) that make us reflect how we want to represent ourselves and show the world. Fashion is a great tool to figure out what direction you are starting your day in. "
perfection!
I buy what I like, what looks good, and what I can afford. I generally don't worry about whether the store is "too young" for me (I'm 26). Obviously, I come across certain pieces in a store that I might deem too young for me…but I don't base it on the store itself. I am a hunter and I like to find pieces I love. I mix and match inexpensive pieces with more expensive ones, and wear what I like.
A little late joining the discussion, but all I have to say is that I usually buy things that look good on me and I really do not care about whather they came from Forever 21 or Nanette Lepore. I usually tend to buy things that I love. Yeah, I am getting older but I think that as long as I am not wearing mini skirts when I am 50, I will be OK. Yeah, I do worry sometimes about whether something is too young for me, but I do look younger so as long as I am comfortable, it's fine.
Veronika, regarding young girls dressing to look older….this concerns me for a number of reasons. First, let's encourage our children to enjoy being children and not have the stresses that come with the teenage years and adulthood. Also, with a very young teen dressing older is the implied sexuality. I've seen some girls 9-11 years old at the mall in outfits that showed way too much skin and were too suggestive. Some very young teens want Louis Vuitton bags – and get them. But what is there to look forward to? There is something very satisfying about earning money with a goal in mind such as a brand name watch, car, or bag. I've seen some teens going out to their proms in very sophisticated dresses and it makes me wonder….what's next? This much sophistication this soon? Where is the anticipation for the next age-related milestone?
I remember the first ball gown I got when I was 17 and I felt like a princess. Did I want one at 15 or 16? You bet! But it wasn't appropriate for the place and era. When I finally was able to wear it, it was more like a rite of passage. (Oh, and we wore those gorgeous long white, soft, thin leather gloves that went up past our elbows. I still have mine.)
One of the problems that many little girls have is not having a proper role model. They seems to look to Britney Spears for their inspiration……yes, very disturbing.
I think designer things are fabulous, but unless my husband and I win the lottery or get some incredibly unforeseen raise, I just can't afford them. And I think it's also just a matter of what someone wants to spend their money on. I may spend a lot more $$ on vacations per year than someone who travels less but owns a Chanel (or whatever) bag. I don't think anyone should ever criticize or judge someone on where they shop/what labels they wear. To each his own!!!
I have 2 Michael Kors purses, plus several from Jessica Simpson, Aldo, Forever21, Target, etc. that I love too.
I am 26, and shop similarly to how you do – buying things based on fit, design, and quality, not based on where it comes from. I love what you wear, and I love when you mix expensive things with bargain finds. 🙂
cynthia- i agree that young girls should just enjoy being girls. I was a late bloomer and still played with my dollhouse until high school and I'm glad I did.
thanks healthy honey for your comment 🙂
I like to dress in a way that is age-appropriate while still maintaining my personal sense of style. It's important to look polished and professional at work regardless of your career.
I always try to dress a little bit nicer than what is expected or the "norm" at my job. I've found that people take me more seriously that way and it makes up for the fact that I am the youngest employee in our department. It also shows a level of respect when you are working with clients (or in my case, kids and their parents).
My grandmother always told me to dress not for the job you have but for the one you want so I try and follow her advice:)
Also, I wonder how many of these young women (say ages 18-22) can actually "afford" designer bags? I fear that many of them are racking up credit card debt that will exist long after that "it bag" has gone out of style.
Another reason why I think financial responsibility and budgeting should be included in the high school curriculum.
I think people should dress in ways that are appropriate for their ages. I think certain things work on certain people and not on others. A pair of shorts might be appropriate for one 40 year old woman and not appropriate for someone younger with a different body and visa versa. Also, Marc by Marc Jacobs isn't for younger people. It's high end design at lower prices, not lower ages.
Just because the advertising department of a company has chosen who they want to influence in their ads doesn't mean that is the only person who should be wearing it. It's more likely that the group of people they advertise to are the people they think will be the most likely to be influenced by the ads, and therefore buy the product.
I have been reading your blog for awhile and have never posted but this topic made me post because I find people that post negative things on blogs interesting. Why do they read the blogs if they affect them in a negative way, enough to write something in a post? Last time I checked reading blogs was a voluntary activity.